Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it (Psalms 127:1).
Many of the people who read these words grew up in broken families. If they were honest, they would admit to being abused and neglected—and they do not want to treat their sons and daughters they way they were treated. There are people who would think, "well, just don't do it." Easier said than done. People who have been abused often end up doing the same to their family members.
If you feel as though this is your story, there is hope for you to break the cycle. Maybe, when it comes to love, your home was emotionally starved. As an adult, you wonder if you will ever truly love your spouse. Just remember, all love begins and ends with God.
If you had the wrong definition of love modeled to you while you were growing up, then you will not know how to love the way God loves. However, He is more than willing to teach you. Don't worry about getting everything right. Just ask Him to show you how to love your family the way He loves you—and He will.
Baby steps are quite acceptable here. Begin slowly. When you feel emotionally charged and want to strike out at one of your family members, think about how patient and loving God is with you. Slowly but surely, He will build His character into your life and love will overflow into your family.
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There are broken lives all around us, but God can glue the pieces back together.